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by Andy Wu, Brilliant Contributor, The Brilliant Foundation
SINGAPORE-PERTH: Failure. It’s an experience that’s universally feared, especially when it happens on stage with every eye on you. I know that feeling all too well—standing there, blanking out mid-speech, and desperately trying to recover. That moment shook me. I found myself questioning everything: Should I even have started this journey into public speaking?
It’s a fear many of us share. Public speaking consistently ranks as a top fear—higher even than the fear of death, according to studies. Yet, it’s something we can’t avoid. Public speaking isn’t limited to a stage; it’s presenting in front of a class, voicing opinions in a meeting, asking for a raise, or pitching an idea to a client. It’s a vital skill woven into so many aspects of daily life.
So, is public speaking as terrifying as it seems? Can we avoid it altogether? My journey taught me otherwise. While it’s intimidating, it’s also a skill anyone can develop—and failure is often an unavoidable part of the process.
The Beginning: A Spark at Curtin University
During my time at Curtin University, I discovered a passion for presenting. Every time I delivered a presentation, I felt confident—like an expert in my field. Capturing everyone’s attention was exhilarating, and it ignited a desire to continue honing this skill even after graduation.
Determined to keep the momentum, I searched for opportunities near Perth and stumbled upon a Toastmasters club. Their free trial meeting drew me in—the people, the encouraging environment, the vibe. It was a place where mistakes weren’t just accepted; they were embraced as part of learning.
My first speech at Toastmasters, titled “My TED Talk Dream,” was a success. The feedback was constructive, and I left feeling optimistic. But then came my second speech—and everything went wrong.
The Turning Point: A Lesson in Preparation
I failed. Halfway through my speech, I blanked out. My thoughts scattered, my confidence evaporated, and I stumbled awkwardly through the rest. It was one of the most humbling moments of my life.
For the first time, I truly felt what it was like to fail at public speaking. It was disheartening. I had never failed at presentations during university, so what had changed? After reflecting, the answer became clear: I wasn’t prepared.
At Curtin, I had always rehearsed thoroughly. I knew my material inside and out. But for this speech, I got complacent. I assumed my love for public speaking and past successes would carry me through. They didn’t. My lack of preparation—not nerves or inexperience—was the reason I blanked out.
From that moment, I made a promise to myself: I would never stand in front of an audience unprepared again.
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Growth Through Practice
Preparation became my guiding principle. I practiced my speeches relentlessly, making sure I was familiar with every detail. The results were almost immediate.
By my fourth Toastmasters speech, titled “A Letter to My Mom,” I saw how preparation transformed my delivery. I connected deeply with my audience, weaving raw emotion into my words. Some listeners were moved to tears. It was a powerful moment that reignited my belief in my ability to succeed as a speaker.
Through consistent preparation, I also learned how to channel pre-speech adrenaline into energy and focus. Instead of letting it overwhelm me, I used it to enhance my performance.
Public Speaking: A Skill for Life
What I’ve come to realize is that public speaking isn’t just about delivering a formal speech. It’s about finding confidence in how you communicate. Whether you’re presenting a project in school, pitching an idea to a client, negotiating a salary, or leading a team meeting, public speaking is at the core of effective communication.
And yet, fear holds so many people back. But this fear can be overcome—not by avoiding it, but by facing it head-on.
Finding What Works for You
If public speaking is something you want to improve, my journey might offer some inspiration. For me, joining Toastmasters was a game-changer. It gave me a supportive space to practice and grow, but I understand it’s not for everyone.
There are plenty of other ways to build your skills. Start small by practicing in front of friends or family, volunteering to lead discussions at work, or joining a debate group or improv class. Some people find online platforms or apps helpful, while others benefit from workshops or working with a coach.
The key is to find what works for you. For me, preparation was the biggest lesson. The more familiar I was with my material, the easier it became to focus on connecting with my audience.
Public speaking doesn’t have to be perfect. It’s about progress—about stepping out of your comfort zone and discovering what you’re capable of.
Failure Is Part of Success
When I look back on that failure—standing frozen on stage, questioning my decision to start this journey—I realize it was a pivotal moment. It taught me resilience, the value of preparation, and the importance of persistence.
Failure, as I’ve learned, isn’t the end. It’s a stepping stone. With time and effort, something that once felt terrifying can become empowering.
So, is public speaking really as scary as it seems? Maybe not. With enough practice, preparation, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, you might just surprise yourself.
Who knows? The stage you fear today might become the platform where you shine tomorrow.
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About Andy Wu
Andy completed his Bachelor of Commerce specialising in Human Resource Management and Management achieving 15 High Distinctions.
Currently, he is working with the Water team in LVI Associates and he is a specialist recruiter focused on mid-to-senior level roles across Australia and New Zealand.
To connect with Andy Wu via LinkedIN https://www.linkedin.com/in/andy-wu-chi-hsuan/overlay/about-this-profile/
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